“In your life, you meet people. Some you never think about again. Some, you wonder what happened to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do.” -C.S Lewis
Is it easy for you to ask for help when you need it, or do you prefer to rely only on yourself? Why?
When life gets tough, the Lord is my rock. Few days ago, I’ve been telling people that I have been busy about a research project. The sleepless nights for that project finally ended and I am actually currently waiting for the last stage of the data verification. I am happy that the project is almost over but the thought of having to find where I should spend my time and skills next is keeping me awake at the wee hours. It’s not the opportunities that I am worried about but it is the door that I have to take. Someone said that whatever happens, it is your choices that make you. But right now, I’m really having a hard time choosing. It’s easy for me to ask help when I need it. The question is: Will the people I share my dilemma with would fully understand it? Sometimes, it’s hard to express what you are going through in a concise and coherent manner. People might not actually get what you are trying to tell them since they are not the ones who are in your shoes. This is the reason I rely to the Lord. I turn to Him and ask for His divine grace to help me be where I should be. Hopefully, I would find my way soon. I’d probably keep my options open for now and put my best foot forward. See you on the next post!
This is in response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “I Am a Rock.”
The past three months have been all about research for me. I’ve been blessed to be assigned in my very own hometown and have worked with easygoing but hardworking people. I actually got a little nervous before the research project started because the responsibility was quite huge. But with the help of my fellow researchers, I was able to handle it. There were glitches and participants who were hard to set appointments with and for a person who wants to have things done according to plan, it was quite frustrating. However, this experience has yet again enabled me to apply the things that I learned in the past and learn something new.
The first lesson that I want to share is: when things don’t go your way, don’t sweat it! What I am trying to say here is although schedules are very important, in research, there is a huge possibility that participants would ask you to re-schedule or worse, cancel! Remember, you are borrowing time from them to answer your questions. Workers in public health are very busy and participating in an interview is not part of their jobs so be very very patient and flexible when setting schedules for an interview. Prepare for Plan Bs. Of course, it’s better if you are able to prevent this from happening by explaining to them the purpose and importance of the interview so that they are committed to the agreed time and date.
For my second point, allow me to re-phrase Albert Einstein’s quote a little. “You cannot solve a problem with the same thinking that created them.” When you encounter a problem, think of other ways to deal with it. Think out of the box. I’m writing this in a generalized way so it applies to several situations.
Third is: it’s okay to take a break but don’t take too long! Breaks are necessary to keep you from having burn-out. I’m lucky that my hometown provides me with a lot of calming views to relieve me from stress. Sit, stare at the waters, mountains or skies for a while and take few moments to regain your energy to work again.
Fourth is pray. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6. Last but not the least is: Anger won’t help you. There will be times that you will be tested and that is why it is important to pray everyday not just for work but for everyday living. If things displease you, do stress-eating or something that would calm you down if you must because being angry may only make things worse. If you can’t really help but be angry, find a safe outlet to express it. Although, I still think it’s best to avoid it 😉
This is in response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “On the Edge.”
Here is a video that is totally related to my previous post. I am so glad that Buzzfeed made more people aware that skinny people have problems too; that there are people who had to resort in eating junk food because it is said to help you gain weight; that it is not true that people like us do not have clothing problems; and honestly there is more to life than what your body is! There is a need for people to understand that human beings have diverse body types and we should not be too hard on ourselves just because we do not fit into a certain body type.
To the people who say that I am skinny and wish to be like me,
1. If you genuinely intend to compliment me, then thank you.
2. But, no, I didn’t starve myself to be like this.
3. I also do not have an eating disorder.
4. Don’t beat yourself up to be skinny. Don’t let media tell you that you should be ashamed of yourself because of your body.
5. Opt to be healthy instead. ALWAYS.
6. Please don’t say I should not exercise because I’m already skinny. Everybody needs to exercise regardless of body type. Not all exercise are meant for losing weight. It boosts grey matter too!
7. You are more than your body type.
To the people who say that I am skinny and I should put on some weight,
1. Yes, I know that I am skinny.
2. You are wrong to think that I have starved myself to be like this.
3. I am also aware that I need 3-5 kilos to step out of the underweight scale.
4. Making subtle statements that I may have an eating disorder hurts.
5. Again, I have not starved myself nor binge-eat to vomit later to be like this.
6. I’ve lost count on the number of New Year’s resolutions that made me half-satisfied year after year because I didn’t achieve the goals you have all set for me.
7. I have always tried to gain weight. When I choose to exercise, it means that I want to get the benefits of exercise primarily for my heart and mental health. Also, I want you to know that I always want to devour food after all that moving.
8. Please stop making comments about my body type in a way that I should be disgusted with myself.
9. I am sooooo tired trying to please you.
1. I should stop being a prisoner by always listening to what other people think I should be. I need to love myself. Everyday is a chance to be better.
Stop saying “This will be my year”
Every year is your year!
The good, the bad –
they are all part
of who you were,
who you are,
and who you will be.
Make your years amazing.
There may be days when you’re down
But you can always choose to rise again.
A friend once said that enrollment in college prepared her for the queues that she had to endure in processing government documents. If you live in the same country as ours, you will understand that falling in line to enroll in a state university or obtaining a legal document can take hours of your precious time. Think of the lines in amusement parks during peak season and you’ll get the picture.
The queues that my friend and I went through for enrollment was in fact, nothing compared to the waiting I had to do in life outside college. It can take days or sometimes years. Life becomes more complex now that you’re in your twenties. It’s not about passing or failing exams anymore. It’s about turning dreams into goals and no one ever said that it was a walk in the park. Sacrifices have to be done and even though you really want to do something about those goals at this very moment, there are times that the only logical thing to do is to wait. It brings a different kind of understanding to the famous quote, “Patience is a virtue”. Indeed, waiting is tough. It tries to me push me off the edge a lot of times. But, I will have my time. I just need to breathe and try to keep my mind off the whole waiting thing.